Do I want more? Less? Or better?

There's what you do, and there's what you could do to switch to 'much better' rather than 'more'. It's up to you, but will you dare?

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I've received great comments following last sunday's post on taking your Mondays off!

Some replied “You’ve made me do that a long time ago, coach!”.🤘

Some gave the idea a chance → “I did and my Monday was a new type of Monday!”. 👏

Others promised to try later, because cancelling tomorrow today isn't always possible. 💪

And someone said “I'd love to do that dude, but I'm so used to working my ass off that I don't even know what I'd do if I had a full day off!”👀

Sounds bad to you?

Meh.

Sounds classical to me.

It's something I hear pretty often, really, especially when I start working with people who feel like their head is under the water.

And it's also the result of a vicious loop that has the worst effects on us ever.

Bad effect number one: you're definitely entering the burnout zone. Congratulations, it usually takes hard work to get there (literally).

Your daily routines are so busy with work that getting back to work is the next logical thing.

And to clarify, the issue isn't that you can't take days off! It's that you're not even thinking about trying to, or, worse, that you're getting back to work pretty naturally on your days off without even realizing it.

Bad effect number two? You lose yourself.

You lose yourself, because you lose sense of what actually matters and what doesn't.

Self-inflicted pressure becomes the new normal and you have no idea.

Things turn into a nasty routine that consumes you instead of fueling your drive.

Your business shifts from Hussle to hassle. (Powerful quote, this one).

And the next thing you know is that you and I end up having a conversation to get you back to the real world and put some order into that sh*t.

Please excuse my French. ← my favorite expression, by the way.

That's fine by me, happy to help put your fingers in the plug, but boy that's not a pleasant situation to struggle with, is it?

Okay, so what then?

Thanks so much for asking.

There's one simple thing to do: start behaving like whoever you want to become. Damn it.

Take responsibility for what happens in your personal environment!

Look around you and figure out what you can live with or not. And then decide what you want in your life.

More work? More business? More ‘me time'? More family time? More network? More time off?

Better work? Better business? Better ‘me life'?Better family time? Better network? Best time off ever?

I'm playing with words here, but more is often less as they say, and better isn't necessary a question of more.

It's a question of better appreciation (which is up to you), and it's a question of making a change happen to boost appreciation (up to you again) - which in both cases requires a simple decision to decide what's better for you!

And yes, deciding to decide is a thing (as opposed to deliberately deciding not to decide).

Boom.

The one million dollar question.

So let me ask a simple question.

Are you looking for more? Or less? Or better?

What's your dream life looking like, three months from now? Six months? One year? Two years? Oh boy, make it five! Ten even!

Guess what?

That's. Up. To. You!

4 levers to action without further due

👉 Look at the way things are and tell me what you want for yourself?

👉 Look at the way things are and tell me what has to change? Where's the BS?

👉 Look at how things are, and tell me what you could influence if you really wanted to make a difference?

👉 And most importantly, look at how things could be. What's blocking you, really?

And of course, feel free to let me know by commenting (there's a button below 👇!) or by simply responding to this email!