I received a WhatsApp with balls on Sunday.
Handling change is tough, but some dare and that makes them inspiring. Where do you stand?
TL;DR:
Making life-changing decisions takes balls.
Taking responsibility is hard, most people never dare.
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I received a WhatsApp on Sunday. It got some serious balls into it, and it was inspiring.
Someone I’d never met before got in touch with me around lunch time. He put a life-changing project on the table and asked for a hand.
Imagine this for a second.
You are professionally ultra successful.
You aren’t just at the top of your game. You’ve reached a position in the food chain industry where there isn’t much left to fear.
Money hasn’t been a topic for a while.
But you got tired of what you have been doing so far and you want to make some significant change happen.
Change jobs.
Change continents.
Change lifestyles and routines.
Change the way you take life, so that you can finally live it in a way that makes sense for you.
Sounds big, right?
There is an issue, though: where to start? How to approach change? How to be comfortable with it? How to make it happen for real, so it doesn’t stay at the wishful thinking stage.
We met for coffee the day after, and after an hour of discussing the idea we decided to work on it together.
There’s no mockery in this gif! This type of decision takes balls, and I have the greatest respect for those who dare.
Taking responsibility is hard, most people never dare.
The key between wishful thinking and action is called taking responsibility, and the reality is that most people never dare.
Reason one: change is a difficult topic to apprehend.
It scares us and makes us uncomfortable.
We don’t know how to deal with it.
And in most cases we’ll prefer the security of a stable situation to the risk of a life change.
Even if the current situation isn’t aligned with what we want for ourselves.
Reason two: taking responsibility is super hard.
The first reaction when I ask someone why they stay in a situation that frustrates them is to say that they can’t do anything about it.
“I wish I could, but it’s complicated.”
“That’d be so nice, but right now isn’t the right time.”
“I don’t have a choice, it’s not my fault…”
And, “It’s so easy for you to say, you have time and all, but not everybody is like that…”
Guess what, though?
It’s always complicated. It’s never the right time. You always have a choice. Nobody cares about whose fault it is, that’s not the point. And the time I have to do my things isn’t the point either, focus on yourself instead.
Taking responsibility is the opposite to being a victim.
It’s about realising there are things you can influence.
It’s about taking control over the things you can influence.
It’s about deciding to do something for yourself instead of finding excuses - good or bad.
I got inspired.
Long story short, I got inspired. The project wasn’t clear at all and everything has to be done. That was the point of the discussion.
But the desire to make things happen was there (for a change) and that made the difference.
What’s your life-changing idea?
There’s a simple takeaway here. Since there are things you can influence if you dare trying, the one thing you need to figure out is whether you want to get to your own next level or not.
There’s no good or bad answer, feel free to be yourself.
Still, now that you’ve read this post, any decision you make will be on you!
To do or not to do, that is the question. Still, things won’t happen without a push and you ultimately get what you tolerate.
Come on, make things happen for yourself!
Until next time,
A.
Well said man ! blablabla... stop it and let's take the fucking responsibility to make it happen ! OH yeah ... JUST DO IT!
I got mine! I'm putting this here so I'm accountable :)